Why is my self care not working?
Self Care has surged in popularity.
“Take a warm bath.”
“Buy yourself a new pair of shoes.”
“Treat yourself to an ice cream cone.”
Instagram is filled with artsy pictures with quotes and Twitter accounts send out inspirational messages daily.
These things all feel nice, but are they sustainable?
We can read, retweet, and indulge all we want, but it still doesn’t get to the root of the problem.
These things are a momentary patch, but they don’t fix the problem. They’re good to have but they’re not all you need.
Quick tip: Taking a lot of warm baths while reposting inspirational quotes are good but they’re not all you need for self care.
You might be asking yourself, “Why is my self care not working?”
We have some ideas.💡 💡 💡
You Aren’t Caring for Yourself in Ways You Need
“Although there may be similarities between self care strategies, self care is subjective and tends to vary from person to person,” says Psychology Today.
So you hate bubble baths and are lactose intolerant. That’s all okay.
The ideas tossed out for self care are just ideas that some may find enjoyable, but they aren’t the only options for self care.
Consider taking some time to sit with yourself and think about what matters to you. Think about the things you enjoy; the things that make you feel at peace; the things that make you feel safe.
Write them down.
Maybe it’s finding a therapist or psychiatrist to support you. Or maybe you’re someone who needs to mute a text chain or delete an app or unfollow someone on social media. It’s okay. It’s all okay because what doesn’t
Self Care doesn’t exist without the “self.” So, make sure you put yourself and what you need first!
What Can Keep You On Track With Your Self-Care
Our Self Care Planner can do wonders for you and your journey. It’s a great tool for sitting down and reflecting on yourself.
Most women struggle to keep up with the demands of modern life, leaving them feeling unworthy, exhausted, and robbed of their own joy and confidence. The Lovet Self Care Planner is a scientifically-inspired planner that will empower you to take back your happiness, reclaim your self-esteem, and blossom in all areas of your life.
See how this journal helped!
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You Need Consistency
Self Care is more than 30 minutes once every few days. It’s more than when you feel like it.
Self Care needs to be consistent!
To build a consistent self care routine and be more proactive about your self care, you must schedule for it.
We know life is hectic, so plan which days and times you can practice self care. You can even get up earlier or set aside just 10 minutes to do something.
What Can Keep You On Track With Consistency
If you absolutely can’t find time, at least remind yourself while you’re on the go.
Self love starts with surrounding yourself with positive affirmations like the ones included in our Self Love Wall Kit.
Easy to pin, tape or glue for a fabulous wall of Self Love. Give them to friends, tape them into your planner, use them in whatever way makes you feel good.
See how this journal helped!
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Michelle A.
You Are Focusing Too Much on What You Don’t Have or Aren’t
Self Care starts with mindset. Even in the most difficult times, self care means working hard to acknowledge negativity and not let it affect you.
You might be spending too much time thinking about what you don’t have or aren’t and that affects your progress. You might be upset that you’re not exercising enough, not getting the job you want, not falling in love fast enough.
Meanwhile, you should be embracing life and talking and thinking about yourself differently.
You know when people say “Talk to yourself the way you talk to someone you love.” That is so true. You’re not talking to yourself like someone you love. It’s okay to be disappointed, but don’t drown yourself in sorrow.
You need to take time to think of the positive things about yourself and around you. Focus on those instead.
What Can Keep You On Track With Positive Focus
We have two items that can help you if you’re struggling in this area.
1. Positive Thinking Journal
Take negative thoughts and transform them into a new mindset and a new you with our 100-Day Positive Thinking Journal.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Sonja H.
2. Inspirational Coloring Book
Coloring is one of the most freeing art forms to de-stress and unwind with. With the Lovet Planners Coloring Book, you'll enjoy beautifully designed coloring pages that are fused with motivation, inspiration, self love all while giving you space to be creative like the boss you are!
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Cheryl M.
Align Self Care with Your Goals
Sometimes we assume that self care is separate from our goals. But that’s simply not true. Self Care works best when it aligns with our goals.
“Another mindset shift is challenging the assumption that prioritizing wellness is something that we must do separate from the other parts of our lives,” said Alyssa F. Westring, the Vincent de Paul Professor of Management and Entrepreneurship at DePaul University’s Driehaus College of Business, “My research has shown that the most sustainable self care solutions frequently come from bringing the different parts of our lives together.”
Westring says things like a walking meeting with a colleague or mentor instead of a Zoom call, community impact through picking up trash around the neighborhood, or strengthening relationships with recurring meetings with a long-distance friend or family member can be a part of self care and life goals.
What Can Keep You On Track With Manifestation
Reach for what you want in life and seize it with the Lovet Planners Manifesting Journal. This journal is one part guide and 100% your journey, walking you through how to manifest and allow good things to flow into your life.
Get guidance on how to manifest new chapters of your life through structured daily journal questions and reflective worksheets.
See how this journal helped!
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ AshleeLauren D.
The Final Wisdom Hurrah
“By changing the way you think about self care, you can make incremental and meaningful shifts that bring you greater peace, energy, and joy. In doing so, you can experience for yourself what research has clearly shown – that investments in your well-being can actually enhance your professional success. It is possible to create harmony among the different parts of your life, but you might have to challenge some of your assumptions to do so.” - Alyssa F. Westring for the Harvard Business Journal
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