Children are taught to share at a young age.
We were taught to share at a young age.
Selflessness is an honorable trait in a person, but many of us weren’t taught the boundaries of selflessness. How far are we willing to bend for others when we are struggling with ourselves?
Women turn to self care as a solution to burnout, and burnout has a way of sneaking up on you. How does it find you? It finds you when you have a moment to breathe. You put so much of your determination and worth into your job, your friends, your family, and when you happen to catch a day off, you crash and are unable to indulge in self care that brings you absolute joy.
Instead, you feel like you’re glued to your bed and there are only so many times you can jump between streaming apps to figure out what to watch next.
2 Myths, 1 Truth About Self Care
Which one of these do you think is true? Which 2 are myths?
- Self care is selfish
- Self care is great for your general wellness
- Self care is only for when you feel burnt out
Truth: Self care is great for your general wellness.
Everyday Health quoted Brighid Courtney, a client leader at Wellable and faculty member at Wellness Council of America (WELCOA), explaining, “When self-care is regularly practiced, the benefits are broad and have even been linked to positive health outcomes such as reduced stress, improved immune system, increased productivity, and higher self-esteem.”
Myth #1: Self care is selfish.
Karyl McBride PhD wrote for Psychology Today on the question Is Self Care Selfish? She stated, “There is a difference between self-absorbed, narcissistic behavior and sound internal self-care. Self-care is about taking good care of our own feelings so we don’t project them onto others, act badly, or cause problems in relationships. Being in touch with our own feelings and embracing them is the healthiest thing we can do.”
McBride continues by explaining that as we learn to take care of ourselves and prioritize our wellness, we become better people in general.
“If we are filling our own emotional tanks with self-respect and loving care, we have much more to give to our families, friends, and the world in general.”
Myth #2: Self care is only for when you feel burnt out.
Self care is non-negotiable. When you deprive yourself of self care, you set yourself up for burnout days. When you consistently care for yourself in various ways on a daily basis, you can alleviate the weight of the next burnout if not prevent it altogether.
How can you ensure that you get your daily self care done?
Answer: A Self Care Planner. What is a Self Care Planner?
A Self Care Planner is an organizer to help you keep track of your wellness goals, create a healthier relationship with yourself, and hold you accountable for at least 1 act of self care a day.
The Lovet Planners’s Self Care Planner is just that.
What’s inside the Self Care Planner:
- 12 month’s worth of self care planning space
- Self care goals
- Self compliments workpages
- Self care ideas
- Self care ideas bank
- Weekly reflections
...and more.
Here’s how it works:
1. Write a love letter to yourself.
Self love is just as essential as self-care and they can go hand-in-hand. The first page of the Self Care Planner is a blank page where you start your self-care journey by writing a love letter to yourself. You can touch on major challenges you’ve pushed through, things you love about yourself, whatever feels right! Steer clear from any language that belittles you.
2. Set your self care goals for the year.
Using the “Self Care Goals For the Year” page, break down the details for what you want to accomplish with your self-care in the next 365 days. The page is broken down into three parts: mind, body, and soul. Zone in on those different areas of your being and come up with goals that apply to each one.
3. Pick three (3) major things you love about yourself.
The “What I Love About Me” page is an extension of the love letter activity. Here, you’re pushed to look at who you are as a person and the qualities that stick out the most to you. Example: I love how quickly I’m able to bounce back from situations out of my control.
4. Review self care ideas and write down your own.
There are three pages of self care ideas, but also a blank version of those pages so that you can write down your own self care ideas that you didn’t see listed.
5. Prep your Month at a Glance.
The sections for this planner are divided into months. Everything is undated so you can start at any time of the year. Start by assigning a mantra to the month. You don’t have to fill out all the gratitude spots in one sitting. Plug gratitude notes into this section as the month goes on.
6. Write compliments to yourself two times a week.
Each section also includes a self compliments log. You have space to give yourself a compliment twice a week. Your compliments can be about anything! If you loved your outfit one day, you could write down I looked fabulous in my ___________(detail). The more detailed you are in your compliments, the better!
7. Plan one self care act a day.
Using the “Self care ideas” pages - or your own ideas from your Self care Ideas Bank - assign one act of self care to each day on the monthly calendar view(s).
Pro-tip: Know your balance. If you know that Mondays are heavier with workload or more tasks, try a small or light act of self care that works into that schedule.
8. Reflect every week on your progress.
The Self Care Planner has weekly reflection questions for you so you can get a better understanding of your progress and your relationships with yourself.
Click Here to View the Self Care Planner
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