Are You Manifesting What You Want—Or Just What Social Media Told You To Want?

You light the candle, speak the affirmations, and carefully arrange your vision board with dreamy images clipped from Pinterest. You’ve done everything they say to do. But if you’re being honest with yourself… something feels off.

You’re not lit up by your vision. You’re going through the motions, but you don’t feel any closer to what you want—or maybe, you’re not even sure what that is anymore.

If that resonates, know this: you’re not the only one. So many women are showing up for a manifestation practice that feels more performative than powerful. They’re working hard to create a version of success that doesn’t resonate—and feeling discouraged when it doesn’t stick. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just manifesting goals that were never truly yours to begin with.

The Social Media Comparison Spiral

Social media is a highlight reel. You’re comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s curated version of “success.” And when your life doesn’t match the aesthetic, it’s easy to spiral:

“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why does manifestation work for everyone but me?”
“Maybe I’m not spiritual enough.”

Stop. Breathe. You are not broken. You’re just misaligned.

The dream you’re chasing might not even be yours. And when you finally tune out the noise and reconnect with your own voice? That’s when the real shift begins.

We live in a world where success has a look—six-figure launches, travel content, and perfectly styled offices. You scroll, you compare, and slowly, their dreams start replacing yours. You cut the photos, pin them to your board, and think: This is it. I want that.

But if your vision is built on comparison, it rarely holds up in real life. Manifestation only works when it’s rooted in your truth. Not the algorithm. Not a trending aesthetic. Just your honest, evolving, deeply personal desires.

Are You Dreaming Your Dream... or Someone Else’s?

Social media makes it incredibly easy to confuse what you want with what you’ve been taught to want. You scroll through post after post of women announcing their six-figure months, European getaways, and perfectly styled offices. It all looks so aspirational, so aligned. And slowly, it starts to seep into your own vision. You start adding their dream life to your vision board, thinking, “That’s what success must look like.”

But here’s the truth: if your vision is built from comparison, it won’t hold up in real life. You can’t align with a life that isn’t truly yours. And it’s no wonder your manifestation practice feels stuck. It’s hard to move toward something that your heart isn’t connected to.

What gets missed in most conversations about manifesting is this: manifestation only works when the dream is rooted in your truth. Not the algorithm. Not a curated aesthetic. Just your authentic vision—messy, evolving, deeply personal.

Be Honest With What You REALLY Want

Manifestation doesn’t require perfection, but it does require honesty. It asks you to stop and ask yourself the big question: What do I actually want?

Not what will get the most likes.
Not what looks good on a mood board.
Not what someone else said success should look like.

What feels right to you?

Maybe your dream life includes a creative business and a flexible schedule. Maybe it’s about building a home filled with peace and presence. Maybe it's starting over, letting go, or finally choosing yourself. There are no wrong answers—only real ones.

So start small. Ask yourself:

• What kind of day would feel fulfilling, even if no one else saw it?
• What’s something I’ve been afraid to claim because it didn’t look “big enough”?
• What’s a dream I keep coming back to, even when I try to ignore it?

These questions might not have immediate answers—but sitting with them gets you closer to a vision that’s real. And that’s where true manifestation begins.

Manifestation Should Feel Natural to You

The good news? You don’t need to throw away your dreams—you just need to realign with them.

At Lovet Planners, we believe manifestation is less about doing more and more about coming home to what you truly value. It’s about choosing tools that help you stay close to your intentions—not someone else’s version of the dream.

Whether it’s choosing a Lovet Vision Charm that reflects what you’re calling in, or mapping out your path in the Vision Board Book, the goal isn’t to do what’s trending—it’s to create a practice that reflects you. One that keeps your focus on what you’re building, why it matters, and how you want to feel as you go.

So, if your vision board looks more like a highlight reel than a heart-centered map, consider this your permission to start again. Rip it up. Redefine it. Reclaim it. There is no one right way to manifest. But the best way? The one that starts with your truth.

Because you already have the power.
You’ve just been manifesting someone else’s story.

Now it’s time to write your own.

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